Manipulating others is not the noblest action, but in most cases people don’t even control what they say and do. Yes, and if some things help them get what they want, will they stop?
In this article we will not teach you how to manipulate, but we will talk about how to resist them.
Victims of manipulators often themselves unconsciously respond to manipulations, indulge, but still feel "something is wrong here."
The main thing is to remain aware and in time to stop the impact on yourself from the outside.
10. Urgency and sensationalism
Marketers have long known how people react to discounts and savings - when they see yellow price tags in the market, people start buying goods as actively as they did not before, not noticing that the discount is only a few rubles. In fact, they do not win anything - manufacturers win.
When a person sees: “Hurry up to buy! Discount - 70%, only 2 products left! ” then he goes and buys, being in a kind of panic that he will miss something important.
What to do: try to calm yourself and not pay attention to tempting offers. Take in the store only what you planned. Believe me - you will not lose anything.
9. Following stereotypes
People all the time try to be “like everyone else”, to correspond to the ideal, although some may disagree with this.
Imagine that a person would like to lie all the evenings of his life at home, reading a book or watching TV, but there will always be those who will blame him: “You are passive, you don’t want anything, you are uninteresting”, etc.
In order for society to accept and respect it, a person has to get up off the couch, find an occupation, start a family ... And unconsciously strive for the ideal.
What to do: don't forget that everyone who can can manipulate people’s desire for unity ... We don’t force you to lie on the couch all your life - just be aware of the actions, ask yourself: “Why do I want this and not the other?”
8. The confusion of information
The task of any manipulator is to place his victim in an illusory environment, where the subject of manipulation will seem like a completely natural course of business.
For example, a girl has passed feelings for her young man, but she cannot tell him directly. The following happens - she herself leads him to conflict, provokes negative emotions, and then leaves, accusing him of everything. That is, “everything is bad,” so her departure becomes natural.
What to do: keep mindful. Look at the situation with a sober mind. In fact, we are ways to see and understand more than they show us.
7. Deprivation of awareness
The task of all manipulators is to make people believe in their authoritarianism. When people come to lectures to a famous philosopher, for example, then almost all sit quietly and listen to him, without doubting the truth of his words.
Thus, those who need it - inspire people with their doctrines, philosophy of life, worldview, etc. The philosopher can speak frank nonsense, but because of his status and authority, no one will notice.
What to do: wherever you go and whoever you listen to - remain mindful, think with your head. Do not even believe what close friends are telling you (they may be wrong), not to mention people you are strangers to.
6. Doubtful fault
Almost all couples have one trick - at first one of the partners makes the other guilty of something, and then asks him for something ... He, wishing to make amends, will most likely fulfill the request, not realizing that he is being manipulated.
The request could be difficult, and under normal circumstances a person would hardly fulfill it, but in order to stop being angry with him, he will fulfill it.
What to do: refuse the request if it’s hard for you to do something. You do not owe anything to anyone, but if you are assured of the opposite, ask yourself what kind of person is next to you.
5. Complex expressions
When in a conversation with a person, his interlocutor uses specific terminology, the first one feels lower status.
The complex set of words, incomprehensible terms used by the witty interlocutor does not at all make him taller or smarter, but a person still feels awkward in such a company - incompetent, stupid. When the manipulator recognizes this, it can turn the conversation in a direction favorable to itself.
What to do: Do not blame the other for "cleverness" and do not feel awkward. Try to understand what the interlocutor is actually talking about, what idea he wants to convey to you. This will allow not to fall under its influence.
4. Prior consent
When a person feels good, feels an emotional upsurge, he becomes a gain for manipulators.
For example, a person is in the company of friends, they drank a little, everyone has fun, and they offer a person to fly to a country in a couple of days. A man under the influence of alcohol agrees, but in the morning he feels discomfort - he doesn’t want to fly anywhere, besides, he had other plans for these days ...
What to do: refuse. You have the right to refuse if you change your mind, and no one dares to blame you.
3. The formation of stupidity
This type of manipulation is often used, due to which marketers, and everyone who is not lazy, earn good money on people.
A person can read in a short description to the book on the site: “Stop closing all eyes! You have been deceived for so many years! ” Of course, nobody wants to be deceived, so people will buy this book, which will “open their eyes” and make them smarter.
Causing a person's sense of failure and stupidity, manipulators promote their ideas that you will solve for them.
What to do: To do nothing. No one needs to ignore situations in which they want to “open your eyes” or make you smarter.
2. Constant imposition
Whether a person wants it or not, what he often sees and hears takes his mind. An example of this is advertising. We cannot turn off the TV every time an advertisement starts.
And if an adult can still refrain from buying a brand perfume that is completely unnecessary for him, then a child who often sees a kinder surprise in an advertisement will start asking for it.
What to do: think every time why you need the thing that you put in the market in the basket. Are you sure that the advertised yogurt really contains bifidobacteria and your body needs it?
1. Gaining hope
Hope is a positive emotion that arises when you expect something desired. Entrepreneurs and marketers know this very well - at first they inspire a person with desires, and then give him hope that they will come true.
Sometimes a tricky move is used - people create obstacles, so they want to get what they want even stronger, and for this they are willing to pay more.
What to do: not to hope but to do. If something does not come true, are you sure that you really want it? Almost all people who dreamed about something 10-15 years ago will say: “Thank you, God, that this did not come true!”