The topic of abusive relations in families has become very often discussed in modern society. Perhaps the whole point is that many people consider the negative model of relations to be absolutely normal: what are the proverbs like “Beats - then loves”.
Some women are simply afraid of loneliness and think that after breaking up with a partner they will not be able to find someone else, however this problem is absolutely far-fetched.
So, let's look at the main signs that you are in an abusive relationship.
10. Imposing assistance
Some men impose their help on the ladies because they seek to make them something obligated. So they create a kind of binding.
You should be wary if your partner insists on providing you any service even after a refusal. An even more alarming sign is that if he does as he sees fit, even if you said a solid “no” before that.
9. Denial of Guilt
If your partner is always looking for the guilty when any problems arise, this characterizes him very clearly. Keep in mind that very soon he will begin to blame you all, because you are especially often around. It should also be borne in mind that such people tend to forget about their own promises.
A man who often denies his guilt will constantly justify himself, showing irresponsibility or upsetting his partner. Some such people prefer to live at the expense of lovers.
8. Self-centeredness
When the relationship is just beginning, the young man may not seem self-absorbed, but this feature manifests itself very quickly. You should be wary if your lover is constantly chatting, and all topics of conversation come down to him only.
Self-centeredness is a character trait that is very difficult to correct. If a person is also prone to cruel treatment of loved ones, he will be absolutely sure that he has every right to behave in this way.
7. Negative and aggressive attitude towards the former
Of course, a lot of people have a negative attitude towards former lovers, but the whole thing is how offended a person is. If he talks about the negative qualities of a former girl almost on the first date, this is a very alarming sign.
Even worse, if a man makes it clear that he despises this woman. You should be wary if he complains that the girl has made a false accusation of ill-treatment. Usually such allegations are true.
A man can argue that it was the girl who was to blame for all the problems that arose in his relationship. This is a sure sign that after a while you will also be accused of all mortal sins, and for any reason.
Most often both are to blame for the problems arising in the relationship, and a worthy person will be ready to admit it.
6. Loves to feel his power
Some men like women who are significantly younger than them. Most often, such a person seeks to feel power over those who are weaker. He will really like it if the girl looks up and catches every word. Typically, such women consider their partners more intelligent, experienced and rely entirely on their opinion.
Some abusers are drawn to injured women who have suffered some grief. Such women are very vulnerable, they are especially easy to psychologically manipulate. Typically, in such cases, a man builds himself a savior, who came to protect a weak creature from all the misfortunes in the world.
5. Constant pressure on the partner
If the partner presses you all the time, forcing sex when you do not want to engage in it, it is obvious that he does not care about the partner’s feelings and desires. He perceives a woman only as a sexual object.
Some men put pressure on their lovers in a different way: they too quickly begin to talk about living together, creating a family. When deciding on a serious relationship, you should not doubt your partner, so it’s better not to rush, but to get to know him better. Negative qualities of people are usually not revealed immediately.
4. Unreasonable jealousy
If a person is too often jealous, and for no reason - it is obvious that he is unlikely to meet with him comfortably, much less live. Some women are flattered by the jealousy of partners, but there should be a measure in everything.
Jealousy can result in insults and assault. A man can say that he just loves you very much - and therefore is constantly jealous. However, it usually turns out that this is not love at all, but a banal sense of possessiveness.
3. Total control
At first, you may even be glad that your beloved takes everything upon himself, constantly thinks out plans for the weekend or for the evening. However, after a while you will notice that the man begins to get angry if you do not like any of his plans.
Then comes the realization that the partner, in principle, is able to take into account only his own opinion. He may begin to criticize your lifestyle, demand to change it.
2. Outbursts of anger
Bullying is an emotional abuse that can turn into physical abuse. The alarm should be sounded if a man threatens, shouts, waves his hands in front of you, pushes, holds or even waves his arms to strike.
It is better to terminate such a relationship immediately, otherwise it will be much more difficult to do it later. Unfortunately, many women prefer to wait, hoping that the behavior of the partner will change. However, then everything gets worse and they just start to be afraid to leave.
1. Disrespect for you
Abuse is based on disrespect. The partner should be polite, listen to your opinion. If in communication with a woman a man allows himself sarcasm, rudeness, he is unlikely to treat her with respect.
If a lover began to behave this way, make him a comment. In case of ignoring, you can safely part with him, because he does not respect you so much that he does not even respond to a direct request.