A child is a big responsibility. We present to your attention a list of things that you should teach a child under 10 years old.
List
- 10. Assessment is not the main thing, the main thing is knowledge
- 9. Do not be afraid to make mistakes
- 8. Do not be insulted by either a bully, or a teacher, or anyone
- 7. Always say if you feel bad
- 6. Girls and boys are equal, you need to respect both
- 5. Do not do what you do not like to earn the approval of others
- 4. Learn to say no
- 3. Respect nature
- 2. Parents are not enemies, you can always turn to them for help
- 1. Do not be afraid to ask if something is not understood
10. Assessment is not the main thing, the main thing is knowledge
This truth must be conveyed to the child from the first grade. Do not make excessive demands on him, do not require good grades. The main thing is the knowledge that the child receives. Otherwise, all your child’s efforts will be directed not to gain knowledge, but to receive five. Yes, so that mom would buy what he promised or simply did not make a scandal. Some parents are so demanding that the child is upset because they got a four. He knows that he will not be praised at home, he feels worthless. Next time, the child will not teach, but will try to cheat. Why should he trouble himself if, after spending two hours doing his homework, he still gets the wrong grades that his parents expect from him.
9. Do not be afraid to make mistakes
Teach your child not to be afraid to learn from his mistakes. Of course, you want the best for your child. You dream that he does not repeat your mistakes or anyone else's. But so the child will never learn independence. In addition, if he listens to you, he may later regret missed opportunities. On the contrary, teach your child independence. Let him make decisions and be responsible for himself too. In case of failure, do not scold him, do not repeat your catchphrase: "I told you so." Better support him, tell us that in life everything does not always go according to plan, but you need to be able to get out of situations with dignity, to be able to lose.
8. Do not be insulted by either a bully, or a teacher, or anyone
It is very important to teach the child to fight back. Otherwise, then it will be very difficult for him. Most parents question their child’s opinions. From childhood, he was instilled with the idea that all adults need to obey, you can’t argue with friends and there are still many different, “incomprehensible by whom” rules of conduct. It does not matter who is in front of him, a bully or a teacher, it is important to be able to defend your opinion. But do not overdo it. Your task is to teach the child to remain polite and well-mannered even in a controversial situation. No need to impress upon him that he is always right.
7. Always say if you feel bad
Be sure to teach your child to talk about feeling unwell. Very young children can not say that they have pain, what bothers them. But as soon as the child begins to speak, it is time to instill in him this skill. At home, most likely, such problems will not arise if the child, of course, trusts you. But here at school or on the street, he may be shy to ask outsiders for help. Tell him how good it is to be healthy, how important timely help is. Let him know that if he becomes ill, they will help him, the main thing is not to be shy, but to say about poor health.
6. Girls and boys are equal, you need to respect both
From childhood, a child should know that girls and boys are equal. You can not call names, offend other children, regardless of their gender, social status. Children, of course, still have little understanding of this. Encourage your child to think that all people are equal. Do not focus only on girls or boys. Tell a story from your childhood or childhood of relatives, friends, after which your child would like to have friends of the opposite sex.
5. Do not do what you do not like to earn the approval of others
It is very difficult to teach a child not to do what he does not like in order to earn the approval of others. Indeed, for the most part, adults do exactly the same. That's only in childhood, all experiences are much sharper. Remember, you probably also worried that you are not very popular in the classroom. Usually, children in the world of world deserve not good grades and good behavior, but vice versa. Explain to the child that honesty and decency are much more important than popularity, deserved by ugly and stupid actions. Do not change your principles, just to get someone's approval.
4. Learn to say no
This skill is useful to him at school, and at the institute, and at the first job. A person who knows how to refuse, lives much easier. A child is a person; he must not unconditionally obey orders, even if adults order. Still, to a greater extent, this applies to relationships with peers. Let the child not follow their lead if he does not want to. But be prepared that the child will refuse to you too. In this case, do not shout at him. Of course, he should not refuse to go to school or do homework. But to refuse visits to the ballroom dancing club that you impose on him may well.
3. Respect nature
Most adults themselves do not know how to take care of nature. Many of them were simply not taught. For them, leaving trash by the river, not putting out a fire, breaking a tree is a common occurrence. They see nothing wrong with that. If you don’t want your child to be like this, tell him more about nature. Do not limit yourself to just talking, do good deeds together. Take a clearing in the forest, let it be your favorite place. Hang a feeding trough in the park, regularly replenish food supplies, tell us that you help many birds to survive. It all depends on your imagination and your desire.
2. Parents are not enemies, you can always turn to them for help
Teach your child to trust you. It is not uncommon for dad and mom to be the last people a child can turn to for help. The fact is that parents expect too much from the child. If he does not succeed, he is afraid to ask them for help. Of course, you are unlikely to succeed in becoming a friend to your child, yet he will not trust you with all his thoughts and feelings. But let him know that in any situation you will lend him a helping hand. Explain this to your child, and most importantly, when he asks for help, do not yell at him, do not teach life, but simply help.
1. Do not be afraid to ask if something is not understood
Many parents from childhood teach children not to ask unnecessary questions. Therefore, when a child does not understand something, he will simply remain silent. And then problems with study begin, or other unpleasant situations occur. Teach him to ask everything that he did not understand. In principle, if you develop the interest of a young child, answer all his questions, then he will not have problems in the future. This skill is useful in adulthood. It is better to ask than to suffer afterwards from the fact that you don’t know how to complete some task. Teach him not to be afraid to seem stupid. Explain that even adults do not always understand everything the first time, and there is no need to be afraid to ask again.