Whoever says anything, but modesty does not decorate a person. More often than not, such intense shyness only complicates a person’s life.
10. Stop worrying about what other people think of you
Most parents raise their children with the installation "what will Aunt Lucy say from the neighboring porch from the grandmother's yard." Although this conditional aunt to Lucy, a person may not even know in the eyes. Each time a person wants to do something, he first of all thinks not about his desires, but about what people will think. But as practice shows, that a person does not do, there will always be those who will condemn any action. It is difficult to cope with this stereotype, but you need to be a happy person. Make decisions based on your desires and not worry about what other people think.
9. Do not demand perfection from yourself, be yourself
Shy people often doubt their abilities and criticize all their actions. In pursuit of excellence, such people lose a lot of strength. Shyness makes a person think about every action and every word. Before an important conversation, such people can spend hours scrolling through the dialogue, bringing it to perfection. And in the end they are so winding themselves up that they just look stupid. Do not try to make yourself perfect. After all, everyone has the right to small weaknesses. And if you are too shy - admit it to yourself first. Drop all doubt and be yourself.
8. Evaluate other people honestly
Shy people often create the wrong first impression. At the first meeting, many people think that such a person is arrogant and reserved. And he doesn’t really want to communicate. Therefore, shy people have to get out and show with all their strength that he likes the interlocutor, flatter and expose him in the best light. Although in reality this may be far from the case. Therefore, in order not to create the wrong opinion, evaluate people as they deserve it. If you do not like a person, it is not necessary to try to build a good relationship with him.
7. Be sociable and smile
Easy to say, but hard to do. Shy people are not always not sociable. It’s just hard for them to communicate with strangers or in public. In the circle of close friends, such a person can be the soul of the company. Try to imagine that in an unfamiliar company there are a couple of your close friends and try to communicate more. Well, if it's hard to communicate, to begin with, at least smile more. So you will create a pleasant first impression and you will no longer be treated as an arrogant and boring person.
6. Do not be afraid to joke
Shy people often think that they have no sense of humor. Even if some kind of joke arises in the head, such a person would prefer not to voice it. If you find it difficult to come up with a joke on your own, learn some funny phrases in advance and practice them. A sense of humor needs to be developed. Of course, you don’t have to strive for the title of chief comedian. Moreover, not all people have such a talent. But if a joke occurred to you, do not be afraid to tell it. Gradually, you will accustom yourself not only to talk in unfamiliar companies, but even to joke a lot. The main thing is not to get out of your way to humor in the company, if your soul does not lie to this.
5. Set real goals
If you are a shy person, and also an introvert, in any case it will be difficult for you to be in an unfamiliar company for a long time. And this is normal. No need to try to overcome yourself. If you want to learn how to communicate, set real goals. You cannot become a sociable person and company soul at a time. We need to work on this. It is enough every day to gradually overcome your shyness, and not try to jump into the pool with your head. So you only hurt yourself.
4. Prepare in advance for an important event.
If an important event awaits you, for example, an exam or an interview and you do not find a place, tormented by excitement, you should draw up an approximate plan of action. Naturally, it’s not worth perfecting your monologues and actions. So you just get more nervous. But to draw up a rough plan of your behavior will not be superfluous. The main thing is to consider several options. No one can guarantee that everything will be as you expect. It may even be worth rehearsing a plan with a loved one. This will help you relax and be more confident.
3. Master the basics of oratory
The main problem of all shy people is the inability to express their thoughts. Especially in a big company among strangers. When such a person comes to an unfamiliar company, he spends most of his time silently, afraid to insert a word. From the outside it does not look very. It is not necessary to learn to be the soul of the company, you just need to be able to maintain a conversation. Do not be afraid to insert an extra word into the conversation. It will be hard at first. But you have to do it. The most important thing is not to think over every spoken word and try to relax, to behave as naturally as possible.
2. Look at your reflection in the mirror and mentally describe all your virtues
In the fight against shyness, you need to start with yourself. Many shy people are embarrassed to do something in front of a mirror, even if there is nobody else in the house. Therefore, to get rid of the problem, you need to do one exercise. Look at yourself carefully in the mirror and describe yourself. His appearance, manner of behavior, habits. But it is only necessary to describe it. Shy people often suffer from low self-esteem, and this exercise will help increase it. You need to make sure that you have many positive qualities, and because of shyness, many people do not notice this.
1. Talk to yourself about yourself as if about another person
Record your speech on video or, for starters, on a voice recorder. But you still have to record yourself in the video in order to look at your behavior from the outside. It is necessary not only to record a video, but also to watch it. Try to fool around in front of the camera, sing or dance. Another way to overcome shyness is to talk to yourself about yourself. But you need to talk as if you are discussing another person, not yourself. For a shy person, even this will be difficult. But with this method, gradually you will be able to overcome excessive shyness.